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Plain answers to the questions that come up after a breakup. Where research says something, we link it. Where it doesn’t, we say so.

The no contact rule: what it is, and how long to keep itWhat going no contact after a breakup means, what counts as contact, how long to keep it up, and what research does and doesn’t say about it.4 min read
No contact, day by day: what the first months are often likeWhat the first days, weeks and months of no contact are often like, and what usually helps at each stage. Based on common experience and research.3 min read
What to do when you want to text your exThe message is half written and it’s late. How to get through the next ten minutes without sending it, what actually helps, and what to do if you already sent it.4 min read
Why you keep checking your ex’s profile, and how to stopLooking at their Instagram again? It’s common, and it tends to keep the hurt going. What research says, and the settings that make checking harder.4 min read
Broke no contact? What to do nowYou texted them, called, or saw them. What to do in the next hour, what it does and doesn’t mean, and how to start again without shame.2 min read

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Compared

No contact apps compared: 10 iPhone apps side by sideWhat each no contact app is for, how it charges and how it’s rated, from each app’s own App Store page. Written by the makers of nocnt, so we say where it falls short too.4 min read

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